The meditation… to Slow-Down ; The awareness of Basic Needs [ when demands are used] which lead to Triggers; The use of : offering validation toward possible Basic Needs , followed by listening … to hear if the other Does have those [or clarified other] Basic Needs to now put in the Arena [ which will Slow-Down the Speed of Exchange ] towards a Meditative Resolution
Invention of: Pause-Producing Words ; when the Speed of Exchange-Escalation is Spinning-out-of-Control ; Yellow-Light ; Let’s slow down ? ; I’m feeling afraid … ; Then Using : Red-Light; I need some Pause, Reflection-Time Away; To calm down … How about 10 minutes ? … Then reconnect, since this situation is important .
Using Careful-Timing : To ask permission, to express a Withhold ; If timing is correct, The person requesting , Expresses… the person hearing the Expression, only repeats-back the Statement of Understanding as Heard [ open for clarification from the Expresser ] … After The Pause, indicating that the Withhold was clearly Expressed ; Then , if Time is possible, Some Processing further may be available. In a Good Way … Sunheart